“Don’t ask a woman’s age and Salary from a man”. I have heard this line quite often but never followed at any point of time. It doesn’t mean that this is the foremost question I ask whenever I meet someone, but I don’t even hesitate to ask if required. What’s there in the age and how much you earn? Is it worth a secret? I have come across many women who are always hesitant to disclose their age; I really don’t understand why? Does it mean a younger woman is always preferred or more capable than the aged ones? Or does it mean a woman’s life takes a back seat when they get their silver lining and innumerable wrinkles?
Now, why you shouldn’t be asking age from a woman? Or a woman’s age can make you think how much capable she is? Just like the Bollywood movies where an actor (Hero) is officially entitled to romance the girl of any age. While anything opposite is highly against any acceptance. Anyway, I’m not talking about the typical Bollywood flicks where people can go gaga over anything but I’m talking about the numbers we (women) get as we age.
Recently, I turned to 40! Didn’t realise where these 20 years have gone? Still, I feel like I’m in college. The same energy, zeal and ambitious to do so more in my life. My life is not over at this age. Also, I’m a wife and mum to two grown-up kids which are anyway has become a part of my life. They are also growing with me. In all these years, there has been many ups and downs like any other human life. But I can’t deny the fact that the learning goes with one another.
What I learnt in these years that you can’t stop your age to grow, the inevitable grey hair, wrinkles on the face and of course the normal abnormalities too. I don’t see any reason to hide my age even by a few days. I’m happy and content at this age and don’t see a single reason why I should keep it as a secret. Yes, I ‘m ageing and I can’t change the life cycle of a human being. Neither I can stop it or hide by layering it with enticing make-up or a drastic makeover. That would be temporary, and I need to accept that ageing is not about worrying but to embrace and living life like king size. My age doesn’t stop me from learning anything new at this age or trying my hands new on those things which I haven’t tried either.
Life expectation at mid-life is the same, in fact, I feel this is the right age when you can have more time for yourself. 40 is the age when you can explore things which you had dropped it earlier or chasing those dreams again to fulfil. There is nothing which stops here, you know you’re growing as a human being with an added benefit of better understanding.
Turning 40 is not about the number but it’s about the attitude. If you’re more worried about the wrinkles and ageing old, then you really need to change your perspective towards it. I’ve seen people who are not yet 40 but talks like 60 and there are quite a few lively ones who are forever young. Of course, with so many things available in the market, people don’t look as per their age and that’s perfectly fine if someone can ditch the ageing reflection in the most natural way.
40 might give you a little shift in your priorities but ultimately you learn what makes you happy and you are free to be more creative and reflective. This age gives you the art of balance which might be missing earlier and I’m sure you’re going to love it. Accepting flaws and unconditional love is another feather on 40 which is quite enough to give you peace of mind!
On a lighter note, I learn one more thing – I don’t need to post each and everything to Facebook. Perhaps, it’s good to see smiles on other’s profile rather creating a competitive world for yourself. Don’t forget-Life Begins at 40!
Have a happy 40!