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Love – A Different Definition To All!

What’s so special about love? Is it equally exciting for the married people like me? Families, who are busy with their daily routine or chores? Or only dating couples can feel the warmth? I have no answer at this moment. Maybe I am a little old fashioned or from the old school. But falling in love with someone- Is it real or fantasy? Or the pictures(PDA) on social media talks about more about this word?

There is no science behind falling in love. You can fall in love with anyone, with anything at any age or at any point of time. This is no perfect formula of love, you just need a connection. Quick, steady and effervescent.

There was the time when the first Valentine’s Day bell rang in my ears. Certainly, the age when you are expected to celebrate these festivals with more warmth and alacrity. I was no exception! A magic of your age, love and the feel-good factor can anytime sweep your sleep and peace of mind. Falling in love, the very first time is always ecstatic and the most impactful event. A period which you never want to pass and you want the clock to cease.

During my entire school life of 12 years, I was one of the least wanted girls because of my tomboyish looks. Short hair, love for jeans, sports shoes, and no accessories- so boring; and obviously why would someone fall in love with similar looks? Being dusky was another hindrance to a beautiful appearance. I was like that disqualified participant who cannot even take part in the race of love? On the contrary, I loved watching my friends who were busy in changing their boyfriends every year!

I never envied and had always loved them as my best friends and why they are still on my calling list even after 30 years. Similarly, they never advised me to change my looks and behave like a girl. Life went smoothly until I entered college for my graduation. I landed up in one of the dream colleges. During the early months, I felt like an alien amidst the fancy crowd. How I never carried a comb in my bag and now the competition to carry an entire makeup started vexing me. I started experimenting with my looks. Long hairs, curls, layers… you name them and I donned them. But I never fell in love with anyone or vice versa.

Three years passed and Valentine’s Day was still dry with no flowers! Of course, 21 years was not the age to leave your expectations or to find love. I was hopeful that one day I will surely get my dream man. That was the time when my elder sister got married and many relationships entered my life. Out of many, one was my sister’s brother-in-law who was single, tall, and handsome! Though we never had any similar interests to discuss but never had I avoided him.

We kept meeting with our family get-togethers and sometimes for shopping. But I was sure that he is not my kind of dream man. Or another way, I myself was not sure what kind of person I was looking for? Till then, it was more than three years of friendship with fewer disputes. But it never struck that he can be my life partner. I knew I was special to him, but our friendship never allowed us to move on another commitment. A commitment to life partners!

I was 24 years+ by then, and had no Valentine yet! But as I said there is no theory behind falling in love. Finally, the feeling of falling in love entered my heart. I was oscillating between my heart and mind. Then came the moment when I questioned myself, “What kind of person I am looking for? No one is a perfect ten, neither am I. Then how is he wrong when it comes to commitment to life? What kind of insecurities do I have?

The unlimited war of thoughts and finally my heart won! I found him as my best friend who was always there to help in my difficult situation without judging me. Can’t best friends become partners? They can and that was the best thing happened to me. At times, it sounds weird and when you look for a well-settled boy I moved ahead with the most unsuitable boy. And the day came when I asked him, ”At least give me 4 roses on Valentine’s Day” and I got exactly 4 roses… no less and no more. Phew!!

It’s not necessary that every person who loves you can express the love in the same manner as you expect. Certainly, there are ways to share your feeling and warmth. I knew he is not the one who will keep giving me surprises like the other lot and I accepted it.

It has been close to 13 years of marriage and my dream to celebrate Valentine’s Day in the most picturesque style is still alive. Maybe someday… Ha! I know this is a different dream for my project. But what I enjoyed in all these years is beyond that one-day celebration.

All those moments when we took our time and spoke to each other; when we were there in our good and bad times without expecting too much and without getting judgmental to each other. The transparency and the trust we developed as partners and now as parents.

I wonder how these 13 years have gone and we are now a family of four weaving new dreams and reliving our old times with our next generation.

For me, love is not about competition, it’s about complementing each other,

It’s not about how you look, but how you feel about the other.

It’s not about expensive gifts, but the little care you show each time.

Love has no boundaries and no age to express.

You just need to feel it in everything you do for each other. Love is effervescent and there is no definition to express and define it! And when you love, you just love!!

After all, you are connected with your hearts you don’t need any big day to be together.

 

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7 thoughts on “Love – A Different Definition To All!

  1. Spot on Ekta. I felt as I’m reading about myself, I was always a dusky tomboy girl till college. Very close to your story except how I met my guy. Exactly, love is not about those obligatory blooms or solitaires, PDA pics on social media etc., it’s about the little things we do for each other. Btw, I had written something on the similar lines last night and glad to read yours today 😊

  2. Spot on Ekta. I felt as I’m reading about myself, I was always a dusky tomboy girl till college. Very close to your story except how I met my guy. Exactly, love is not about those obligatory blooms or solitaires, PDA pics on social media etc., it’s about the little things we do for each other. Btw, I had written something on the similar lines last night and glad to read yours today 😊

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